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Alzheimer’s Society: an empowerment of empathy

In February this year I had a phone conversation with a helpline adviser at Alzheimer’s Society. I didn’t make the call lightly; coming to it only after months of frustrating encounters with in-turn-frustrated authorities, duplicated assessments, have-a-go form-filling and a … Continue reading

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My October Symphony, Part 6 – Fishing with Dad

Dad, with some coaxing, sits down next to me on the bench outside his room. Shoulder to shoulder, the both of us facing the fence, beyond which the motorway sounds like the ocean. The cubes of beige cake on the … Continue reading

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The Fish Knives Box

We used to laugh about the affectation – the Beano-like, Victoria-Wood-ish joke of a family in possession of such finely-packaged airs and graces. Fish knives and fish forks. As if we’d ever sail further out than brought-in battered haddock or … Continue reading

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The Next Few Steps

In the first window of the charity shop there’s an acoustic guitar. A make I don’t recognise and the price is just a little high. In the next few steps I think about how Dad’s going into care for a … Continue reading

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Vanishing Points

While Dad disappears into his dementia – absent from words and from recency, the football results too now slipping by – Mum is visibly shrinking in size, so that even in the layers of winter clothes – a hat she … Continue reading

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Posts from the Var Side – Thursday 9th July

Yesterday Dad was finally diagnosed with dementia. And I say ‘finally’ with a slight eye-roll and with some relief; both my and our legitimate – factual – reactions to what’s been a painful, protracted and possibly unnecessary delay. Dad’s condition … Continue reading

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